There is no doubt that life on planet Earth requires a great deal of patience. We must be patient with ourselves, with others, and with time itself.

But, how patient is too patient?

How much bad behavior should we tolerate from an employee? How patient should we be with a disrespectful child? How much hurtful behavior should we tolerate from a spouse, or a boss?

How much slack should we cut ourselves when we cheat on the diet, or don’t finish the novel we want to writ3?

Every person falls short sometimes. We are all deserving of understanding and forgiveness.

During difficult times, we all need some extra room.

Yet, there comes a time when enough is enough. The trick is in knowing when that time is.

The nature of the relationship, and the relationship history, is important to take into consideration. Likewise, the nature of the problem.

It doesn’t make sense to destroy a good relationship, or to quit a good job, simply because someone is having a bad day.

Yet, many who were raised in seriously dysfunctional households have been inadvertently trained to overlook bad behavior. Sometimes, after years and years of tolerance, something inside them screams ‘Enough’, and begins to demand change.

Sometimes the key is simply to firmly and politely express our feelings. That is, to explain why a certain behavior is hurtful, and can no longer be tolerated.

Sometimes we need to re-evaluate our sensitively to a behavior. Maybe the problem isn’t the specific behavior, but rather our perception of it.

Every situation is different. What each situation has in common is this. We all have a right to express our feelings. We all have a right to feel comfortable in our relationships. And, we all make mistakes.

The more we understand the things we can and cannot tolerate, and the more we can be clear about our needs and expectations, the better our relationships will be.

The more willing we are to make changes for ourselves and for the people around us, the less we will need to do the painful soul-searching as we try to determine the things we should and should not tolerate within a difficult situation.

The StaarCorner

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Some of the exciting highlights of StaarCon will include presentations by Mary K. Greer and Benebell Wen, as well as a day-long preconference intensive with me, Christiana Gaudet.

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Weigh Things Out with Tarot

So often we find ourselves needing to pick and choose our battles. We wonder how much we should take. Should we make a change? What would be the best way to approach a difficult conversation? What is our partner’s capacity to hear us and understand our frustration?

When these are our challenges, tarot can be our best friend, our comfort, and a great tool for creating strategy.

The best technique I have discovered for using tarot in these situations isn’t a specific spread.

Rather, it is often better to make a list of your questions, and pull a single card, or a small group of cards, to answer each question.

If you are deciding whether or not to have a difficult conversation, you can ask questions about the person’s ability to have that conversation, their likely reactions, and the best way to approach the conversation. You can also look at the possible outcomes if you have the conversation, or if you simply wait and keep your mouth shut.

If you are feeling upset about a situation, you can use the cards to check in with yourself to see if you are over-reacting or over-personalizing something. Sometimes interpersonal problems come from within.

You can also use the cards to discover the lessons and opportunities for personal growth that are being presented to you by the difficult situation at hand.

The Week in Review

This week I shared a blogpost on things to do when a tarot card doesn’t seem to make sense.

As always, I shared many live broadcasts on both Facebook and YouTube. Please remember to Like and Subscribe!

Don’t miss my free YouTube class on tarot reversals coming up this Sunday!

You can find all my live YouTube classes and tarot meetups, archived and upcoming, in a single playlist on my YouTube channel. Take the classes you have missed and set a remind for those that are scheduled.

From Around the Web

Here are three tarot spreads to help you check in with your relationships.

Starcana has your July tarotscopes!

From Instyle, here are your July horoscopes.

Cards for Your Consideration

There are many tarot cards that can speak of patience, communication, boundaries, and how we get along with each other. In fact, most tarot readings will give core messages and advice on these very topics.

This week let us consider the message of the Seven of Wands, in the context of considering our tolerance levels.

The Seven of Wands can speak of deftly handling numerous tasks or deflecting numerous assaults. The character is this card is able to deal with everything that he is facing.

This can be a card of multi-tasking. This card can also suggest a person with an overly defensive attitude.

Is it possible that the card might say that, even though the person is able to tolerate all of these attacks, he shouldn’t have to? Does the Seven of Wands ever appear to say that enough is enough?

I think that, within the context of the question, and of the surround cards, this might occasionally be the case.

Just because one is capable of handling something, doesn’t mean they have to, or that they should continue to.

The next time you see the Seven of Wands, consider whether this card is simply confirming your ability to handle your situation, or gently suggesting that enough is enough.

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Tarot Topics Newsletter
Volume 3 Issue 27
July 1, 2020