Spiritual Bypassing at the Tarot Table

Over the past few months I have found myself thinking about spiritual bypassing more and more. I wasn’t sure why this concept was floating into my field of attention so strongly until I started doing a little research. In an article in Psychology Today I found a list of signs that a person is engaged in spiritual bypassing. The list included an item that drew my attention, ‘engaging in cognitive dissonance’.

Watching people around me embrace obvious conspiracy theories, and watching others give spiritual explanations for their world views which, to me, logically don’t add up, I see an alarming trend.

Spiritual bypassing is something that most people will do at certain points in their lives, and it is not always harmful. Sometimes it is a necessary part of healing and growth. It is only when spiritual bypassing becomes the ongoing default behavior that it becomes potentially problematic.

Spiritual bypassing is a natural reaction to trauma. Right now, most of our nations and all of our planet seems to be suffering from deep trauma. This trauma is caused by a confluence of things, a perfect storm, if you will. We have pandemic, social media, economic turmoil, and the rise of fundamentalism in both Islam and Christianity which is directly in conflict with the rising demand for equality for all.

It occurs to me that, just as individuals may engage in spiritual bypassing as a response to personal trauma, societies will engage in spiritual bypassing as a result of national trauma, and global trauma.

‘Spiritual bypassing’ is a term that was first coined by a prominent Buddhist psychotherapist and author named John Welwood in the 1980s. It’s a term I have become aware of relatively recently, but a phenomenon I have noticed all of my life. It’s good to have a solid term to use to describe a disturbing but hard-to-nail-down series of human behaviors.

Spiritual bypassing is the cause of toxic positivity. Spiritual bypassing is at the root of dangerous philosophies such as ‘Prosperity Gospel’ and over-the-top misunderstanding of the Law of Attraction. These belief systems excuse adherents from the burden of compassion by blaming the sick for their illness, and the poor for their poverty.

In short, spiritual bypassing allows people to feel insulated from misfortune based on their spiritual beliefs and practices. Spiritual bypassing allows people to feel comfort from spiritual practices without truly acknowledging and healing their wounds. Spiritual bypassing serves as an escape from the actual work of healing, and from the actual truth of vulnerability.

Tarotists can be doubly at risk for the effects of spiritual bypassing because we ourselves can fall victim to it, and we can see it in our clients at the tarot table.

Just as religious fundamentalists are inherently involved in spiritual bypassing, so are tarot fundamentalists. Tarot fundamentalists are those who cannot question what they think they saw in the cards, or what they think they were told in a reading.

We tarotists can fall prey to spiritual bypassing when the cards tell us everything will be okay, and so we neglect to do the mundane work we need to do to make everything okay.

Amongst we tarot readers are those who do a lot of predictive reading, and those who don’t. I am a predictive reader. Yet, I am clear in my own mind, and clear to tell my clients, that the future is never written in stone, and that what we do today matters a great deal in what happens tomorrow. When we forget that fact, we give up our power in life, and begin to engage in spiritual bypassing,

I believe that tarot, and that all spiritual practice, is meant to empower us to heal, to help others, and to live well upon the planet. I also know that to do those things is hard work. Our spiritual practice, whatever it may be, must encourage that work, rather than excuse us from it.

In these difficult times, now more than ever, we must be aware of the human tendency to use spirituality as an escape from reality, and an avoidance of truth. Surrounding ourselves with spiritual thought and activity is only helpful if it encourages us to do the work we need to do, and to accept the ultimate truth that we are all at risk for sudden misfortune.

When we see our clients and friends engaged in spiritual bypassing, we need to assess their readiness to be gently prodded toward a more productive healing path. As tarot readers we often have to walk the delicate balance of meeting people where they are without corroborating their unhelpful beliefs.

In this time of great and overwhelming trauma and cognitive dissonance we have a responsibility to use our tools to keep our grounding, and to help others do the same. The Four Elements which figure so prominently in tarot are a helpful reminder, and a helpful tool, in doing that.

The element of Air reminds us to seek the logical truth and avoid that which masquerades as truth.

The element of Fire reminds us to stay active and motivated in the pursuit of our goals, rather than waiting for good things to simply happen to us.

The element of Water reminds us to stay in a place of compassion, and to hold space for our own grief, and the grief of others.

The element of Earth reminds us to stay grounded, proactive, and practical in our thoughts and actions.

Tarot in My Life: Ten of Swords - Get Over It!

"Get over it, Get over it,
All this whinin' and cryin' and pitchin' a fit
Get over it, get over it"
~ The Eagles

      When I first started learning and reading tarot cards, I cringed when I would see the Ten of Swords. Along with the Three of Swords, the Devil and Death, it is one of the most halting cards in Tarot.

      Lately it has come up often in the online tarot readings that I have been doing at Biddy Tarot. I think the Universe is trying to teach me something about its meaning as I help and guide others through their journey by answering their questions. I don't sugar coat this card when it comes up. I will interpret the card as fully as possible for the given situation and card position. Although the character depicted in the card (in each of my decks) seems in terrible pain with ten swords sticking into his back, I inform the querent to be aware that some struggle is in their life now, or was in the recent past, or may occur in the future.

      When I had this card come up in the first position in a Celtic Cross reading, I wanted to re-shuffle the cards and start over! I wanted to figuratively run from this card. But to have integrity as a tarot reader, I HAD to address the issue -whatever it was- in my querent’s life. If I didn't, I wouldn't be helping her, or be able to fully interpret her story in the full 10-card spread.  So, I took a deep breath and asked myself, what else can I learn about this card for my querent? My aha moment came as I looked more closely at the card to see the sun rising on the horizon!

      The Ten of Swords shows up when we have been going through a rough time in our lives. When physically we are feeling at the very bottom of our energy level, mentally we feel used up, and spiritually we feel like there is no hope. Sometimes, the Ten of Swords indicates a period of time in our lives when we feel like the world is against us, as if we are saying, "Go ahead, stab me again! What's one more knife in my back!"

      I have learned to not fear the message I am about to deliver, but to use my intuition and guide my querent through the pain represented in the card. I will tell her to go ahead and feel what you're feeling, but don't do it for too long, or you will get stuck. Sometimes in life, there are things we truly want and need to come to an end. Ultimately, the Ten of Swords is about endings... and like the sunrise, it's about new beginnings. It's about getting over it, getting up and moving on. It's about changing our perspective from a face down woe is me attitude, to a face up hello world here I come attitude. Instead of pining for what used to be, we need to enjoy what’s here now and look forward to what’s to come. The worst is over. Get over it!

The depth of darkness to which you can descend
and still live
is an exact measure of the height
to which you can aspire
to reach.
~Laurens Van du Post