You Don't Have to Fit in to Be Comfortable

Something that I often see at the tarot table is that many people feel that they just don’t fit in with the people around them. This can happen in the workplace, the neighborhood, or even amongst folks who gather around a shared interest or concern. Some people even feel that they don’t fit in with their own family of origin.

People often describe this feeling of not fitting as uncomfortable and awkward. Many of us remember being teenagers and trying to fit in with a particular group of kids, sometimes to the point of doing things we knew we shouldn’t do. Never did that work out very well!

There is only one solution to this problem of feeling different than the people who are around you. That solution is deceptively simple.

Just be okay with who you are, and the fact that you are different. Find ways to appreciate the people around you, even though they are different than you. Hold appreciation for the things about you that make you unique.

The more you can appreciate your own differences, as well as those who are different from you, the more comfortable you will be with those around you.

Remember that being different isn’t bad. Own and celebrate the things that make you different and unique. The space that you hold within your workplace, or family, or friend group, is even more important because of your uniqueness. It means that you can’t be easily replaced.

Sometimes we are made to feel uncomfortable because our differences cause others to be uncomfortable with us. As hard as that it, the solution is to lean in a bit more, and let people get to know us. It is in that process that we become able to find common ground, even with those who aren’t very much like us at all.

I had an aunt who used to say something very wise. “It would be a pretty boring world if everyone were all the same,” she would tell me. Those words have always been a key to being comfortable being myself, especially around people who are different from me.

Mark Your Calendar for StaarCon!

On January 22 through January 24, 2021, there is no place in the world you would rather be than at our new and exciting tarot conference, StaarCon!

We are holding StaarCon at the Doubletree Executive Meeting Center in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, just minutes from Palm Beach International Airport.

Already confirmed is headline presenter Benebell Wen, along with many other favorites like Ciro Marchetti, Mitchell Osborn and Mary Ellen Collins.

StaarCon stands for Southeastern Tarot Artists and Readers Conference. While tarot reading and tarot art will be a main focus, we will also have educational and experiential workshops on many forms of divination and mysticism.

If you are interested in presenting or vending at StaarCon, please let me know!

We will be opening registration to attend StaarCon in a few months. Watch our website for exciting information!

Holding and Sharing Your Space Tarot Spread

When you find yourself in a group with which you don’t always feel affinity, here is a tarot spread to help you figure out how to hold your space and be comfortable.

You can arrange the cards in any shape you prefer.

Card One: The value I bring to this group.

Card Two: How I can better express that value in this group.

Card Three: How this group feels about my differences.

Card Four: How I can hold space for my identity in this group.

Card Five: How being in this group can help me grow.

There is Still Time to See Me in Tampa!

It’s not too late to book your private session with me while I am in the Tampa Bay area January 24 through January 27. I can come to your home, or you can see me at my private location in Wesley Chapel.

Call or text 561-655-1160 to reserve your session with me!

The Week in Review

This week I shared some important tarot reading techniques in a blog post, and then demonstrated those techniques in a video.

If you missed my live webinar on YouTube, you can watch it in archive.

Each week you can catch Your Three-Card Weekly Reading on Facebook and YouTube.

From Around the Web

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Cards for Your Consideration

There are a few cards in tarot that speak of integration and fitting together. Sometimes these cards can describe a process of making something work. Sometimes they can talk about that awkward feeling of finding ways to fit in with people who are different from you.

Of course, the Fool advises each of us to simply be who we are on our journey through life. Here are three other Major Arcana cards that can speak of the ways we integrate with others.

The Lovers

The Lovers is, very often, not about romantic love. Rather, it can speak to the process of integrating opposites, and seeing the difference between one thing (or person) and another.

The Chariot

If you look at the steeds on most Chariot images you will see a reference to opposites pulling together in unison in order to move forward. This reminds us of the importance of working together with different people.

Temperance

Temperance speaks of blending ingredients in order to make something bigger and better than the sum of its parts.

In moments when you feel that you are not fitting in, look to these cards to see the value of bringing your unique qualities to a group.

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Tarot Topics Newsletter
Volume 3 Issue 4
January 22, 2020